"some people" have nothing else to do in their life, so they make their hobby extra-serious. All that talk of fines and federal agents coming to your house is (99.99% of the time) BS, usually spread by sad, little people..
The normal people here just want to talk to their friends.. and have better things to do with their time than spreading fairy-tales..
They didnt have the 2-radio deal when I got mine, but at the time the price for the repeaters was the same on Amazon as on their website, just without the crazy shipping.
According to the FCC, if you are using a GMRS radio, thou must use your callsign on all channels, regardless of the power-output you have set.
The question is, will they care if you dont.. and according to the FCC's enforcement database, they don't.
Welcome to the exciting and dynamic world of GMRS!
Short answer to your question: No/Probably not
Longer answer: You can use repeaters on GMRS but their range is usually limited to around 100 miles or so and any mountains between the repeater and either of the two people talking would block the signal completely.. So IF there is a repeater between you that you can both "see" and connect to with your radios, then, maybe.
Its not an 'option' per-se, (IIRC I'm on my Mac so I can't remember exactly) - You have to right-click on the program icon and select that option from the menu - you have to do it for the install program, then again for the program after you install it.
They are the same..
Try removing the Decode tone to see if that helps, unless you are absolutely certain that the repeater uses the same decode and encode tones.
It is also possible that you are simply out of range of the repeater - EVEN if you can hear it, that does not necessarily mean that you can hit it. Try going outside or driving closer if necessary.
One of the members of our group recently was successful in having his city put up an open GMRS repeater intended primarily for emergency use, but also available the rest of the time.
He is now trying to expand to other local cities but is facing much resistance and typical bureaucracy and red-tape of getting the city government to approve everything.