I don't think adding a duplexer is going to give you what your trying to do. I think I understand your logic, but even the open unused receive port on the duplexer would still receive the TX signal from the other antenna. you either have to get the antenna's farther apart, or you can run one antenna on the duplexer, and that for sure solves your problems. As for the loss through a duplexer you can get some that have lower loss, I run a Sinclair Q3220E which factory spec says around .8db loss you can tune it and get it a bit better I think I got mine down to .6. Going with a duplexer you will have to get a good SA or VNA to tune it, and you'll want to tune it on site. The Rigol dsa815-tg is a common one due to it being somewhat affordable. Still not going to get full 25 watts if that's your repeaters output power because your getting loss in all the cables, adapters, splices, and lightning arrestors as well. Best bet would be to start with more power so that after all your loss you end up with 25watts at the antenna. Toronto Surplus is a good place to pick up duplexers that are used for a decent price FWIW.